Stories, Lessons and Humour.

 Adulting Series - #1 They say "na who first buy, na him buy old model" as a way to console you when your peers seem to be getting ahead and you're putting in the work but nothing is coming forth. They say in your 20s the pressure you feel is only in your head and there's so much ahead of you but what no one tells you is that you're running out of time slowly. You want the things you want at the time you want them and though they say there still time to get these things, some of the reasons you want to these things won't always be there. The day I felt I failed as an adult? It was the day I realized this truth.  My dad and pillar of hope and strength had done it all for me. Raised my sister and I alone after our mom died, being such a true support and everything you can dream of in a parent. Well, time passes and health trails, he became ill. He stayed that way for a while, we tried what we could, patching up what we could with the little we had until that cou...

 Dear Individual, I met a girl once, she was the pride of her mother and she knew it. She was everything that her mother had ever dreamt of - she was courteous, loved by all, getting an education, skilled and beautiful.  Her mother often told her of how even though she was one of the most beautiful women in her town, she had to bear many woes - circumcision because merely having female genitalia meant having a susceptibility to sleeping around, not getting educated because education was the men's rights, not getting a say in family affairs because the she wasn't the head - her strength was to be in execution not in instruction. In the midst of these, her mother swore that her daughter will get the life she didn't. Her mum was the most open person she knew, she spoke carefully and never insulted, never wronged anyone, gave her all and minded her business. So when it first began as whispers that she was a witch, it was the worst thing to hear. Whispers became rumors and rumo...

 Dear Individual, Do you remember how as a child you looked forward to growing older, and even as you grew into an adult and realized it was a scam, you knew things won't always be bad and dared to hope. Well, what if someone told you that your value as an individual was reducing as those processes were taking place. The audacity of the stupidity of humans, yeah? Interestingly, this has become the reality that women have had to face. How? Hold my glass, let me explain. Sexual Market Value, that is what it is called. It is the phenomenon that after thirty years, the value of the woman decreases majorly; this is because it is believed that her fertility starts to play "suwe" and she is not as sexually appealing as she was in her 20s. While it might seem like I am taking sides (which I am, lol). Let's see why sexual Market Value is a thing. To those who believe in it: 1. Women are considered majorly to be sexual creatures, attractive based on physical feautures and kept ...